The weekends come and go so quickly in our house. Since I work from home, I rarely take a day off. My husband works seven days a week, and is rarely home. This weekend someone very special reminded me why it’s so important to take a day off.
Saturday night at bedtime, my 8 year old tells me she is sad. Concerned, I laid down beside her to try to figure out what was wrong. My girl was very reluctant to talk. I asked her if she would like to have a Mommy/daughter day the following day. To my surprise my daughters response was “but you’ll be working”. I reassured her that Mommy would take the day off and she kept responding with “but you never do.” I promised her that I meant it and she fell asleep with a smile on her face.
With a heavy heart I cuddled with her for a little longer that night. This parenting job can be so hard. I made a plan in my head for the next day. I’m happy to say that I woke up and actually followed my plan all the way through.
Waking up and having my main focus just on my daughter, and coffee, was a great start to the day. My mind was so open and not thinking about work was so refreshing! I wanted to give Leah my full attention. I couldn’t believe how free I felt! We had a lazy morning in our pajamas.
Playing barbies and actually organizing her dream house which turned into moving her room around! All while watching Christmas movies. She loved it and it opened up her room so much. I also found that I was barely on my phone, as everything I do is based online. It didn’t bother me as much as I thought it would.
Around noon we got ourselves ready and headed out for lunch and a little shopping. Leah wanted to spend her birthday money from last weekend. While shopping, Leah picked out exactly what she wanted. She’s a shopper like her Mama, she knew what she wanted! We were about to leave when Leah asked to pick out some Christmas presents for Rocco, our beloved dog. How could I say no!?
We got home and opened up her new toys! Leah begged me to let her give Rocco 1 present now. Rocco is getting older so I thought why not? Leah picked out a squeaky hedgehog and gave it to him. Our dog was in heaven, he had a new buddy. He always picks one toy, and we call it his buddy. He sleeps with it and takes it everywhere!
Leahs favorite toy was a big princess Tent! She could actually stand up in it! After trying everything out, Leah asked me to put the tent on her bed, where she continued to tuck herself in with her tablet to relax. It was a good feeling seeing her so tired from playing with me all day. She was genuinely happy!
My husband returned from work at 5:00 to find Leah in bed. Daddy promised Leah that we’d go out to dinner that night because we never got to on her birthday. Leah actually said she didn’t want to go anymore. My husband went into the bedroom and passed out from exhaustion within 5 minutes.
Poor Leah runs out of her room about 10 minutes later to inform me that she’s changed her mind and wants to go. After finally waking Daddy up we get to Texas Roadhouse and have an awesome dinner. Then Leah got what she wanted. They brought out the horse saddle for her to sit on and everyone sang Happy Birthday! She was in heaven.
By the time we get home it was time to get ready for bed. Best part of the day was when I tucked her in she wrapped her arms around me and said “you really are the best Mommy ever, thank you for not working.” My heart melted. I realized it was the first day in a long time where we didn’t argue and I’ve realized that I need better time management when it comes to work and my daughter.
I didn’t realize she needed more of me. She always seems content but she is at that age where she tests me daily. It’s a challenge I wouldn’t trade her for anything in this world though. When I look at Leah I see myself at that age. She is pure, beautiful, unbroken, happy, loving, respectful and has the biggest imagination. Being an only child must be hard, I’ve never thought about it before because I have 2 brothers.
Now, I realize that she needs more of me now than ever. I refuse to look back and say, “I wish I had done it differently”. Today has opened my eyes to what I hope is the beginning of understanding. I promise to never let those words come out of my daughters mouth again. Tomorrow’s agenda will be creating a schedule around Leah. She will always come first, always.
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